wheel of consent choosing

Stop Doing, Start Choosing

If someone offers us touch, or we have an instinct to be touched, we tend to think of the touch itself as the next step, and the thing to focus on. But there’s a process happening behind the scenes…and it’s not actually about the touch at all.

The quadrants

Each quadrant in the Wheel Of Consent creates a different experience and teaches you something different about yourself. Learn more about each one:

Serving
Taking
Allowing
Accepting

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Wheel Of Consent Downloads

Wheel Of Consent resources for you to download: Wheel of Consent diagram 3 Minute Game Booklet For Me For You Game All Quadrants key practical pointers   I also offer online practice sessions for anyone who’s taken a Wheel Of Consent workshop of 1 day or longer with me or any other School Of Consent…

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Events & courses

Wheel Of Consent Essentials – Belfast

24 – 25 March 2023, Belfast // Understand giving and receiving better with this life-changing practice. Learn the essentials of the Wheel Of Consent in this ‘hands-on’ workshop. Assisted by Dee Larsen.

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Wheel Of Consent Practice Lab – Belfast

26 March 2023, Belfast // If you’ve already attended a Wheel Of Consent workshop, deepen your embodied understanding of receiving and giving at this practice lab. Assisted by Dee Larsen.

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