wheel of consent choosing

Stop Doing, Start Choosing

If someone offers us touch, or we have an instinct to be touched, we tend to think of the touch itself as the next step, and the thing to focus on. But there’s a process happening behind the scenes…and it’s not actually about the touch at all.

The quadrants

Each quadrant in the Wheel Of Consent creates a different experience and teaches you something different about yourself. Learn more about each one:

Serving
Taking
Allowing
Accepting

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