touch

About touch

Why touch is so important

Touch is the central interface between our bodies and the outside world. The first of our senses to develop in utero, we begin to feel things just weeks after conception, and this sense never turns off or takes a break – often continuing to allow us to experience the world even after other senses fail in old age.

Recent research has revealed that people can not only identify, with startling accuracy, emotions – such as anger, love, gratitude, and compassion – from a single touch by a stranger they cannot see, but they can differentiate between different kinds, something we don’t do as successfully in studies of facial and vocal communication.

The science is indisputable and shows not only that our skin is literally designed to be touched, but also that touch is a vital part of staying healthy, influencing us in a myriad of ways – from weight gain to stress.

Learning through touch

Our primary neural pathway for processing information is sensory. So learning through the body – by using touch as the learning container –  is an ideal way to learn about ourselves in a way that really sinks in. As valuable as theory can be there’s really no substitute for physical experience.

Learning using the Wheel Of Consent is not about giving pleasure. It’s about learning to wake up the nerve endings, and about who’s doing the doing and who it’s for.

Teaching through touch

Although teaching the Wheel Of Consent uses one of the body’s primary learning routes of safe, intelligent touch as a learning container, the focus of this work is not on the touch itself. Instead it’s a powerful inquiry into knowing what it is you want and how to communicate it – where the choice NOT to engage with touch is just as welcome.


Take a look at some of the ways I can help you build a better relationship with touch

The quadrants

Each quadrant in the Wheel Of Consent creates a different experience and teaches you something different about yourself. Learn more about each one:

Serving
Taking
Allowing
Accepting

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