Learn To Touch

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A step-by-step guided touch practice that will change the way you feel. Unlock your connection with sensation and choice without the need to touch anyone else.

Learning how to touch is often more about relearning touch.

You were born with the natural ability to feel. But along the way your life experiences have probably disconnected you from this to some extent.

Although touch is crucial to our wellbeing, the fast pace of life, and a basic lack of touch education lead many of us to turn away from the challenges it can bring.

Physical connection with others can often just feel too difficult to navigate safely. Traumatic experiences with touch can compound this.

Relearning how to touch with me is all about learning to trust yourself, your impulses, and your desires.

This lays the foundations for healthy connection and intimacy – and it all starts with your hands.

Watch the video to find out more about learning and relearning touch.

Is it for you?

This is for you if you’ve ever

  • Found touch challenging
  • Lost connection with sensation or pleasure
  • Struggled to trust or value your own impulses.

This learning pathway is a wonderful place for starting over - relearning how to touch, and rebuilding intimacy, trust and enjoyment in your own body without needing anyone else.

Learning to touch, with this guided self-practice, is the first step on a pathway that can lead to better relating. And ultimately, for those who want it, a much more connected experience of the whole body (even in the bedroom).

Essential skills you'll learn

Through a mixture of theory and practical exercises you’ll learn essential skills to:

  • Understand the components and processes of touch
  • Develop a personal practice to help you experience sensation, and enjoyment, in your own skin in a way that you can access any time you choose.
  • Increase your capacity to notice, and learn from, your own impulses
  • Get clearer about what you do and don’t want and make choices about that
  • Explore your relationship with pleasure when there’s no-one else involved

About touch in these sessions

Whether you’re working with me online or in person the main focus of this practice is self touch. You can learn this skill without needing to touch anyone else - so you don't need to worry about someone else's reaction or about pleasing them!


"I finally was able to consent with myself the kind of touch and pace of touch I like, and need, in order to experience pleasure"

Eva, Scotland

learn to touch self study

The most important thing about touch is not the touch itself. It's being able to choose what you want.

Learn To Touch with me

IMPORTANT NOTE: Prices shown for in-person non-residential intensives are to work with me at my home base near Findhorn, Scotland. To work with me in Edinburgh or London please add £160 per day. This covers the cost of the venue I use which is secure and suitable for this sensitive work.

Take your next step...

If you're interested the next step is to book a free, no-obligation Clarity Call with me.  This is an informal Zoom call of up to 30 minutes. It's your opportunity to ask any questions you might have, and for me to make sure I'm able to offer what you're looking for.

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