How we ask that you engage with each other (the rules):

1. Confidentiality — Outside the group, share only your own experience and learning; do not share the names or personal experiences of others in the group that could lead to others identifying them.
2. Feelings are welcome and do not need to be justified or explained; honor the feelings that arise in others by allowing them to feel without fixing or advising.
3. When sharing, speak from your personal experience  - Use ‘I’ statements (eg. I feel, I notice, I’m experiencing, etc.). This helps you to notice and take responsibility for your own experience. Please avoid speaking on behalf of others.
4. Group care — Use the names and pronouns people request, and honour the lived experience of those in the group. Don't make assumptions about people's identities and experiences (eg. regarding gender, race, sexual orientation, etc).
5. Group limits for exercises — Clothing stays on; no genital or sexual touch, or requests for that.

What we invite for your own experience (the guidelines):

1. Invite a beginner's mind — If you have some experience with the Wheel of Consent your opportunity is to take it deeper. There is always more to learn! Everything we offer is an experiment and an opportunity to notice.
2. Participation can look many ways — join an exercise, witness, journal, take a break, say no to a practice, and change your mind at any time!
3. Practice self-awareness around how you take up space — if it’s easy for you to step in and share, pause and wait a moment; if you find it challenging to take up space, practice stepping in and sharing.
4. Self-care and nervous system regulation — take care of your needs for water, toilet, etc; if there is something specific you need, can you find a way to ask for it?
5. Notice what you need to stay in your learning zone — take a break, move your body, express something to the group, etc. There is no need for overwhelm!
6. Practice 'impact over intention'. This means you can choose to prioritise the effects (impact) of an action on another person more than your intention behind it.  Whilst your intentions may be good, we invite you to listen, take responsibility, and adjust when someone experiences harm as a result of your words or actions.

As facilitators, we will hold to these rules and guidelines, and will remind you of them as needed. When we make mistakes, we will do our best to clean them up. We invite humility and goodwill.