Learning To Touch

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A step-by-step guided touch practice that will change the way you feel in 6 simple sessions. Unlock your connection with sensation and choice without the need to touch anyone else.

Do you struggle with touch, connection, or intimacy?

You were born with the natural ability to feel. But along the way your life experiences have probably disconnected you from this to some extent.

Although touch is crucial to our wellbeing, the fast pace of life, and a basic lack of touch education lead many of us to turn away from the challenges it can bring.

Physical connection with others can often just feel too difficult to navigate safely. Traumatic experiences with touch can compound this.

Waking up your hands

Working with me you can learn the essential skills for touch and choice, which lay the foundations for healthy connection and intimacy – and it all starts with your hands.

Your hands contain more nerve endings than almost any other part of your body.

They are the perfect conduit for you to connect with others more meaningfully, and consentingly.

Yet you’ve probably never thought of them as much more than tools to achieve tasks.

Waking up your hands is the key to becoming more connected with yourself, with what you want (and what you don’t). And, ultimately, to more engaged and consenting interactions and relationships.

Touch is about feeling

In our goal-oriented culture we tend to look on the touch itself as being the outcome to aim for. We get frustrated or disappointed when it doesn’t go the way we want it to.

But touch is complex. What if there’s a more effective approach to it than starting with the outcome? Touch is about feeling. And in order to feel we first need to learn how to notice, and how to choose.

The key to feeling is sensation. What do you notice about the response in your own skin when you touch something? How do you feel about that?

"I finally was able to consent with myself the kind of touch and pace of touch I like, and need, in order to experience pleasure"

Eva, Scotland

Slowing down touch

Feeling can be about emotion as well as sensation. Slowing down is crucial to enable this kind of awareness.

Slowing down helps shift you from pursuing the quick fix of a perceived outcome, to enjoying the journey and all that you discover along the way.


Once you slow down, you start to become more aware of how your body feels. Then you can start to make more informed choices. Does it feel good? Do you want more? How do you know when you’ve had enough?

As you follow your self-practice you’ll become more skilled in noticing your impulses for touch, and pleasure, and the choices you make about them. Without needing to worry about anybody else’s reaction.

Is it for you?

This is for you if you’ve ever

  • Found interactive touch challenging
  • Lost connection with sensation or pleasure
  • Struggled to trust or value your own impulses.

This learning pathway is a wonderful starting point to (re)build intimacy, trust and enjoyment in your own body without needing a partner.

Learning to touch, with this guided self-practice, is the first step on a pathway that can lead to better relating. And ultimately, for those who want it, a much more connected experience of the whole body (even in the bedroom).

Essential skills you’ll learn:

Through a mixture of theory and practical exercises you’ll learn essential skills to:

  • Understand the components and processes of touch
  • Develop a personal practice to help you experience sensation, and enjoyment, in your own skin in a way that you can access any time you choose.
  • Increase your capacity to notice, and learn from, your own impulses
  • Get clearer about what you do and don’t want and make choices about that
  • Explore your relationship with pleasure when there’s no-one else involved

Waking up your hands is also the foundation of the Wheel Of Consent – a simple, powerful navigational tool which allows you to bring choice and clarity to your interactions with others. Many clients have described it as life-changing.

Learning To Touch sessions are the ideal first steps towards exploring the Wheel Of Consent, if you’re curious but unsure whether you’re ready for interactive touch.

The most important thing about touch is not the touch itself. It’s being able to choose what you want.

Learn this with me